About Escorts and how to handle
Many escorts have learned and can
teach you advanced sexual techniques. They are open to answering questions about
women that most people won’t discuss.
Escorts can help you sharpen your sexual skills.
Once you get over the “paying for it” barrier, you’ll
realize that it’s really a bargain. What you get is good sex with a woman who
generally is a lot better at it than the average “civilian” woman, without the
cost and complications of free sex. These women have been with a lot of men and
they know things about sex that you can learn. If you talk to most pros, they’ll
tell you that the average guy doesn’t have a clue about what women want. And if
you’re willing to put some ego aside and learn, these women can teach you things
that will impress the hell out of civilian women. So being with an escort is a
great opportunity to sharpen your style.
Maybe you just got divorced or dumped and you’re hurting and need someone to be
with. Being with an escort is a great way to recover from a lost relationship.
No, it isn’t the same as “true love,” but it can make you feel a lot better
about yourself and help build back your confidence so that you’re functional and
attractive to women again. Women like men who are confident and they are
repulsed by men who are sexually needy. That’s why when you need to get laid the
most, women don’t want to be with you. And that’s where escort services play an
important role in society. They help men who need to get laid, get laid.
And these men are far better for it.
I don’t know if my therapist really likes me of if he’s just pretending to
like me because I’m giving him money.
Convenience is another big advantage with escorts. When
I want to get laid, I want it now. With escorts I can make a phone call and be
having sex in about an hour with my choice from a variety of different women. I
can actually pick a woman who suits my mood.
You can’t do that in a relationship.
There are a lot of men who have
been through the divorce courts who still want to have sex without giving
everything they own to lawyers. Escorts offer a lawyer free alternative to a
Let me explain about “variety.” This isn’t just a
matter of what the women look like. It’s about personality and style. Sometimes
I choose an escort who will give me slow, romantic sex with plenty of kissing,
sweet talk, and affection. But sometimes I like hot, erotic, animal instinct sex
and another escort is better at that. Sometimes I’m in the mood for someone who
is just pretty. Sometimes I want good conversation and sometimes I want no
conversation. Different women for different moods — and escorts provide this
To have sex when you want it, with whom you want it, and where you want it is
well worth paying for. It’s just like ordering pizza delivered. You’re paying
extra for convenience and service.
Exactly What is an Escort Service?
Movies and television depict prostitutes in a few limited and unrealistic ways,
mostly to the detriment of the women. There’s the drug-addicted street walker
standing on a dark and dangerous corner with a black pimp who beats her hiding
in the shadows. Then there’s the whore who inhabits a giant Victorian brothel
where a guy plays piano in the parlor and the women are slaves to an obese
madame and secretly hate their work and their customers. In all the television
I’ve watched, the only TV show that seemed to come closest to accurately
depicting the relationship between and escort and her client was the TV series DALLAS where J.R. Ewing
had this ongoing relationship with a woman named “Sabrina” that came in and out
of his life over the years the s
Escorts are women just like any other woman. The nicer you are to them, the
better time you both have. Escorts give men the opportunity to practice and
become a better partner for when the “right one” comes along.
how was on the air.
Negative stereotyped situations may exist, but they are
not the whole picture. In an attempt to foster a false sense of “drama,” the
entertainment and news media almost never give a positive slant to prostitution,
and for some reason, they rarely present any images at all of escort services.
One reason for this may be that there is very little “drama” in an escort
service. It’s simply a business.
Using an escort service means that you are dealing with an agency, just like any
other service agency. You don’t pick up a street walker and you don’t go to a
whore house. Instead, you call and arrange for companionship, and a woman comes
to your home or motel room and spends time with you in your space. You get the
advantage of not having to go anywhere and of being in your own home where
you’re most comfortable — or in your motel room if you are on a business trip
or you’re married and can’t do it in the home. It’s that simple.
These days there are a lot of independent escorts who work for themselves and
advertize on the web. Some of them have there own web sites. I keep a list of
on my site
and there are plenty of others if you search google. And there are escorts that
advertize in personal ads on personal ad sites. Generally they will advertize on
adult person ad sites like
where they word the ad in a way that if you pay attention – they are looking for
a paid relationship. I tend to recommend the larger adult matchmaking sites like
Adult Friendfinder because the more women on the site the more you’ll have to
choose from in your area.
Calling the Escort Service
Escort services are listed in the yellow pages under Escorts, Entertainment, or
Massage. That’s if you are in a larger city. If you live in a small town you
might want to look online if you can’t find it anywhere else. You might want to
call several escort services in your area to get familiar with what is being
offered. Understand, though, that they might not be able to fully describe over
the phone what they do because they don’t want to get busted by the law. In
other words, if they say they offer “full female companionship,” or a “girl
friend experience (gfe)” you’re supposed to be sharp enough to figure out that
you’re going to get laid.
There are some escort services that don’t offer sex as part of their product
line and fail to make that clear. If you are in doubt you might want to indicate
that you are interested in “full female companionship” and if the agency can’t
accommodate that they should let you know up front. You don’t want the escort to
show up and there be a miscommunication.
Typically, the escort service will tell you that there is an “agency fee” that
goes to the service and then there are “tips” — which is what you pay the pro
for her services. On the phone they won’t likely give you a price list of what
you get for what money, but you can ask questions like, “If I have $200 on me,
do you think that would cover the average tip?” This will give you a ballpark
idea of what you’ll be paying. I used to live in Springfield,
Missouri, and around there usually a $100 tip and a $50
agency fee will get you laid. In San Francisco expect to
pay between $250 – $400. Prices vary from area to area. Generally Escorts and
Lawyers make the same hourly rate.
Usually the agency will describe the age, hair color, measurements, and weight
of the escorts. If that’s all you want to know, this may be enough description
for you. But I encourage you to ask for what you want in some detail. You may be
looking for a personality type, for instance, or someone with a specific ethnic
background. In my case, I like women who like their work; I like them really
horny — and that’s what I ask for. Some escort services won’t give you that
kind of information over the phone — or the person working the phones may not
know much about the personalities of the women. If you’re interested in anything
unusual, like anal, bondage, costumes, or whatever, you should say what you’re
interested in. The agency might recommend someone who specializes in your
interest. You might want to call several services, so that you can find the
agency that will make it their business to supply you with the experience you
If you contact an independent escort online you have the advantage of getting to
know her personally through email and/or online chat. This is a safer way to do
it because it allows you and the escort to get to know each other first. You
might get a picture and be able to interact first and know what each other
likes. That way when she shows up she’s not a “total stranger”. And – if she
knows you and what you like – she’s going to be more prepared to show you a good
time. So – if you want to be whipped – she’ll have her cat of nine tails with
Many escorts are moving to online escorting because its safer for them too.
There’s less law enforcement online and its not real different than dating. Its
safer for them because they would rather know you more than to show up and fuck
whoever opens the door. Its well worth exploring the online services especially
if you are new to this. If you’re a cyber virgin – there’s a lot of fun things
you can do online that will prepare you for your sexual experience. Writing hot
email is great foreplay and its easier to get very sexual while you are still
Here’s an example of how this works: I was visiting in San Jose, California,
and I called a service there. They asked me what I was looking for. I said,
“Well, this is California and I want the California experience. I
want a woman who represents what the Beach Boys are singing about in the song,
‘I wish they all could be California Girls’.” The woman understood exactly what
I was talking about and sent me this pretty little brunette who called herself
“Mindy” — and she was just what I wanted. Mindy was one hot little woman who
really enjoyed her work and we both had a great time. Years later – even after
she got out of the business I can to San Jose again and she still wanted to see me.
And if I hadn’t asked for what I wanted – I might not have met her. So don’t be
shy about letting the service know what you’re looking for and don’t be afraid
to shop around until you get what you want.
One of the best way to find an escort is to get a friend who is into escorts
to recommend and escort or an escort service.
Once you’ve picked your escort, give the agency phone
operator good directions to your place. It’s been my experience that a lot of
the women who work as escorts aren’t adept at following directions, so make it
simple if you don’t want them to get lost. You might want to tell the phone
operator that you’d like to have the escort call you to get directions. That
also lets you hear the woman’s voice so you can decide if she sounds like
someone you’d enjoy being with. Of course if they are online – they can just
print off a map and find you from that.
Generally, the phone operator who takes the calls knows who’s available and will
page the woman you pick. The escort will return the operator’s call and the
agency will then call you back to confirm that she’s on her way.
Sometimes the woman you’ve chosen is not available. Don’t be surprised if the
service calls you back and tells you that the one you picked didn’t answer her
page. You might want to mention a second choice then, or try another service.
This business is imperfect, so don’t expect the same reliability you get from
your doctor. Independent escorts that you meet online have less problems with
scheduling because they do their own scheduling. So they are more likely to show
up when they are supposed to.
The best times to call escort services are from 5:00 PM till midnight. This is
the hours that most of them are working and you get the best selection. Although
many services are 24 hours, not that many are still working at 4:00 am and are
often rather wore out by then. I like to call early in the evening because I
like it “fresh”.
Communicating by Email
If you meet an escort online through an online dating service such as
www,smuggle.com or www.ssssst.com then you have the advantage of getting to know
them first, and them getting to know you first. This is important – especially
if you are new at this – because it will make you less nervous when the time to
meet in person comes. And she will be less nervous too. You have to remember
that these women are women and even though they are “professionals” most women
are a little nervous when meeting a new guy that they are about to be intimate
with. Email becomes a form of foreplay.
Email is a very sexually exciting way to communicate and at first stay
anonymous. And – as to anonymous – you probably don’t want to use your real
email address that you use for everything else. There are a lot of free services
like Yahoo and Hotmail that will give you a free email account. Anonymous is not
only safer – but its sexier. Its easire to get very sexual when no one knows who
You’ve heard if online cyber sex – but – until you have experienced it – you
have no idea how interesting it can be. I’ve found that you can easilly bring a
woman to orgasm mearly by typing words. Its rather amazing actually. And – when
a woman is anonymous – she’s a whole different person. Email and chat give you
the anonymous experience.
Years ago I had a friend who did radio ads for me when I owned a couple of
computer stores. We used to put together the most outrageous radio spots and he
told be something that I’ll never forget. He said that radio was far more visual
than television because you can use sound to paint any kind of mental image you
want – where television was limited to what you can afford to create. Online sex
is like that. I can use words and become a nine foot tall slimey space alien –
grey tentacles with lots of suckers and an appatite for swuirming female flesh
and women picture that and are all over me, even though in real life I’m just an
aging fat nerd.
You don’t have to start out as a space alien – but you can talk about your
sexual fantasies and see if you can find common ground exporing the common
mental imagery that perpetuate the human race. If you can establish this kind of
online foreplay then by the time you get together physically – you’re both ready
for it. And it is something that anyone can do and its not hard to learn and it
will help you understand women better. Something that is worth understanding.
Many online dating services also have live online chat. Or you can download
Yahoo Messenger and go to the chat rooms and explore online interaction. Its a
good way to help you start communicating verbally about sexuality. Understanding
what gets women really hot is the first step to becomming an incredible lover.
And escorts are looking for guys like you who are ready to learn how the game is
Escort Services vs. Online Escorts
Which is better – escort service or online escorts. Well – that depends on where
you live. In the bigger cities many local escort agencies have web sites so the
you can see the escorts and read a little about them. The more you know the
better. If you call them on the phone then you’ll just get a vauge discription.
But – if you live in a small town you might not have a lot of choice. Online has
the advantage of “cutting out the middleman” and deal directly with the escort.
And – an online escort at least has some computer skills which is somewhat of an
IQ prequalifier. And – you can intereact with her to determine who is right for
On the other hand – many escort services has a long track record and a steady
clientel and prescreen quality escorts. In this kind of situation – trust and
reliability are important. Someone with a phone number in the Yellow Pages might
be less likely to scam you than someone without a permantent presence. So it
really depends on your location and your needs. But the shift towards online
grows every year as more and more women get into this on a recreational basis.
I’ve written my
Shy Girl’s Guide to Becoming a Callgirl
targeted at women who are not looking to be a full time escort – but are looking
for an escort experience. Many women look up to hookers as sexual role models
and it has become somewhat of a goal for ordinary women to fulfill their “Whore”
fantasy and experience what its like to do it themselves.
Women who often have self esteam issues and low self confidence about their
atractiveness to men can get a lot of reassurance about themselves when a man is
willing to pay them for sex. And what kind of man do these women want to get
together with to fulfill this sexual desire? Guys just like you – who are
reading this article and know how to treat an escart right. You can be some
woman’s first time escort experience – and because you read this – you know just
exactly what to do to be everything she dreamed was possible.
Escorts are women and they like to be treated like women. They don’t like being
treated like low life whores. The happier you make them, the happier they make
you. I have found that escorts are some of the finest and most interesting women
you’ll ever meet and it’s a real treat to get to know them. I recommend that you
prepare for your escort’s arrival the same way you would for a date. After all,
escorts offer more than just sex. Often you can get good conversation and
personal companionship as well. And you get these other services by being as
nice to them as to any other woman you date. These escorts are, after all, women
and they like all the things that any other woman would like. And it’s a good
way to keep in practice in getting ready for other dates.
Prepare for an
escort the same way you would prepare to meet a special date. Treat her like a
queen and she’ll treat you like a king.
So, clean up the house, make the bed, spray some
scented air freshener, take a bath, brush your teeth, and trim your fingernails.
Put on some music if that’s what you’re into, or a tasteful X-rated video that
appeals to women. Candle light is a nice touch. You want to create a romantic
environment so that she knows you’re a gentleman and a sophisticated lover. Even
though she’s a pro, all women like to be romanced. And if she’s having a good
time, you’re going to have a good time.
Make sure you turn the porch light on so that she can find the house. You don’t
want her to waste a lot of time locating the place. Be sure to put your
valuables away. Don’t leave your wallet out on the table, because there’s no
point in putting a stranger in a situation that tests her honesty. But do have
the fee and the tip out and laying on the table when she arrives.
If the escort is more than half an hour late, call the agency to check on her
status. They might say that she’s on her way and tell you when she will get
there, but sometimes they will have to page her again. Many times agencies
promise that the escort will arrive at a time that isn’t realistic. Sometimes
the escort just doesn’t call in and they have to get someone else. I get really
frustrated when an agency fails to deliver, but sometimes you have to stay on
them to get someone to actually show up. You might have to try several services
before you find one that is consistently reliable.
When the escort arrives, treat her like a blind date. Tell her she looks nice.
Smile, be friendly. Invite her in. I generally keep a variety of refreshments to
offer her, like wine, soft drinks, fruit juice. If you smoke you can let her
know she can smoke. If you don’t, then let her know she can’t.
If this is your first time with her, she will probably go into a script. She
needs to know you’re not a cop or a violent weirdo or someone who’s going to be
trouble. She also needs to let you know that she’s expecting you to pay up
front, but she can’t ask you to give her money for sex, because that would be
prostitution, and that’s not what she does.
Generally the woman will start out asking something neutral like, “Have you used
the service before?” She trying to determine what you know and what she’s going
to have to tell you about. If you’ve used other services before then let her
know that so she knows that you understand the rules.
If you don’t know what to do and it’s your first time, just say so. That way she
can give you the information you need. If you’re embarrassed or nervous, let her
know it’s your first time and that you feel a little awkward. This helps her to
help you relax, talk a little more, and allow you to get comfortable. Everyone
has a first time for calling an escort service and part of the escort’s job is
to let you know how to do it.
She will then explain the rules about the agency fee and the tips, tell you that
you are expected to pay up front and what the time limits are. She will explain
that there are different tips for different services. Eventually she will ask
you, “What do you want to do?” When she asks you this, you are expected to tell
her what you want. This is usually an awkward moment if it’s your first time.
What you want to get across is whether you want to get laid, just want head, or
both. And you can just say it if you want, and that’s fine. These women aren’t
shy and you can be comfortable talking to them about your sexual interests. That
is what they are there for and they aren’t bashful.
It’s just my personality, but I like to start with some
humor to break the ice. I may ask, “How much would you charge to have my baby?”
This usually gets them laughing — and some find it erotic. They’ll usually say
something like, “I don’t do that,” or, “You couldn’t afford it,” to which I
might reply, “Well, then, how much for an attempt?” This is a good way to
lighten up the mood.
Many women are escorts because they like their job. The more comfortable
they feel around you, the more they can enjoy their work.
As I said before, I personally like women who like
their work. I like women to enjoy having sex with me. If that’s what you want,
then you think like I do. They are trying to give you the pleasures you want, so
the more accurately you communicate with them, the easier it is for them to
satisfy you as a customer. And like any business women, these women enjoy
working with their better clients.
After you let her know what you want it’s time to give her the money. She’ll let
you know what she expects and how to pay her. The best way is to lay it on a
table and have her pick it up rather than handing it to her. It’s a legal thing:
You’re not really giving her thee money for sex. You’re paying her for her time
and tipping her because she is a beautiful and attractive woman. And this
beautiful woman finds you irresistible as well and you are so attractive that
even though she shouldn’t, she just can’t control her desires and can’t resist
having sex with you. You get the picture …
After she’s been paid, she will usually have to call the agency and let them
know she has arrived, been paid, and that everything is fine so they can start
the clock running. (When your time is up, the agency will call you back if she
hasn’t called in first.)
After she gets off the phone,
she’s all yours.
This is the time to start getting relaxed with the escort, time for a little
small talk. She may ask what you do; you might ask how long she’s been working
in this field and what she likes. If you’re having personal problems, you might
want to talk to her about them. I find it’s easier to talk to an escort than a
psychologist and the advice is just as good. Escorts are an anonymous person,
who is a woman, and you can ask her anything about women that you would be
afraid to ask other women you know. Most escorts love to answer these questions
and they are glad to fill you in on the secrets that hardly any guys know about
what women really want. In fact, although most men think they know women, they
really don’t. According to many escorts I’ve talked to, the average guy doesn’t
have a clue about what women want. If you ask a few questions you might find
that you can learn a lot of things you didn’t know.
Don’t Get Ripped Off
I have never been ripped off – but I have had people write me who have been
scammed. As with anything – you need to be street smart. You want to be careful
in selecting an escort that the person you are dealing with will act in a
Generally you pay up front shortly after meeting – although there are escorts
who ask for the money afterwards. But – she should not get the money and then
need to leave the room to get something. One thing that can happen is that she
gets paid – then says she forgot the condoms in her car – and then drives away.
This can happen to you and there’s not a lot you can do about it – but you
should ask her to leave the money if she needs to go out of the room.
Doing the Deed
At some point she will ask you if you want to “get comfortable.” This means “are
you ready to have sex?” Your job now is to lead her to the bedroom and get
naked. To protect herself legally, she will wait until the client is naked
before she undresses. I suppose the legal idea here is that you’ve paid for a
massage, but when she sees your irresistible naked body, she can no longer
control herself and has to fuck you.
Relax and enjoy it. She a pro and you’re the client. This isn’t a woman you have
to impress. She’s been with a lot of other men who are a lot better looking than
you, and a lot worse looking than you. As far as comparing yourself to other
clients, if you are clean, sober, and nice to her, and made her laugh, you’re
already in the top 10% of all clients and you’re doing just fine.
If you’re nervous, you might start out with a back rub to get used to touching
each other. Take your time. If this is your first time and you’re uncomfortable,
you might want to agree up front that you may need extra time and work out an
extra tip and agency fee so that you can take longer if necessary. That way you
don’t have to rush things.
During foreplay, touch her softly like you would do with any other lover. Be
romantic. Even though she is a pro, she is also a woman and her body responds
like any woman’s. If you know what you’re doing, she is going to have a very
good time too. Women enjoy sex and if the situations is right, they like to get
their rocks off, just like you.
You want to be sensitive to what she wants. Some women don’t like you to put
your finger in them. Others just love it. If she says don’t do something, don’t
do it. Most escorts don’t do anal sex, so if that’s what you want, you should
say so when you call and get an escort that will do it. Also, kissing on the
mouth is generally a no-no, so don’t even try without asking first.
A condom is required. Don’t ask if you can skip it because VD is real and the
woman doesn’t want to get it, or give it to you. However, many women don’t buy
the best condoms, so if you have a brand you like, buy your own and offer to use
your condoms. It will save her from having to use one of hers. It will also
avoid an awkward delay if she forgets to bring one and would otherwise have to
leave and run to the store to get one. This actually happens more often than it
I always keep a tube of KY Jelly by the bed. Lubrication is good. She may be wet
enough already, but often she won’t be. There are several reasons that a woman
may not get wet, even when she’s hot. These include where she is in her monthly
cycle, if she’s just douched, her mood, how many other guys she’s done today, if
her rent’s paid, or what medication she’s on (nasal decongestants will dry up
more than her nose). So after putting the condom on, grease it up good.
Being clean is a big turn on for escorts. Women like guys when they just got
out of the shower. All women like candle light. Escorts are no exception.
Although the escort is supposed to bring these supplies
it’s a good idea that you have your own. I’ve had several escorts show up and
forget to bring things so don’t count on them having their act together.
Besides, you may prefer a better brand of condom than they have. I personally
like Lifestyle Ultra Thin Lubricated condoms. I don’t get the ones with Nonoxidol 9 because I’ve had several escorts mention they have a bad reaction to
it. I also keep a supply of tampons and douche. Also have clean washcloths and
towels in the bathroom so you both can clean up afterwards.
Three billion years ago life formed on this planet. At some point similar
organisms started exchanging their DNA and sexual reproduction was started. In
the early warm volcanic seas that covered the earth, some proto-organism fucked
another proto-organism and life has been fucking ever since.
We are the descendants of three billion years of things fucking each other.
Every form of life, from man down to plant life, wants to fuck something and
exchange DNA. And we are the descendants of those who fucked, not of those who
controlled themselves. There’s nothing wrong with fucking and there’s nothing
wrong with fucking a total stranger. You have a dick and it’s there for one
reason only, and that’s to fuck with. She has a cunt and its purpose is to get
fucked. That what it does. The process is to put your dick in her and deliver
your semen so as to get her pregnant. That’s the instinct you are born with and
she’s born with. Obviously, you don’t really want to get her pregnant. But your
body wants to feel like you’re getting her pregnant, and her body wants to feel
like she’s getting pregnant.
I have found that sex is best when you get down to the
instinctive level. As much as we pride ourselves on being superior beings, we
are just like all other life on earth and our animal instincts cause us to have
to fuck. That’s why you’re paying an escort for her services — because your
body needs it. And that’s Okay. That’s the way it is. I didn’t make the rules.
True love is just one style of
having sex. There are many other styles. Just because you’re not in love doesn’t
mean it’s not personal and intimate.
When you get horny, you masturbate. That’s part of the
instinctual system that keeps you ready to fuck. You have to stay in shape so
that when you get the opportunity to share your genetic material, you’re ready.
This has nothing to do with love or religion or other mystical powers. You’re a
man. You have a dick. You want to fuck. End of story.
Women are like that too. They have a cunt. It’s there to receive a dick. Women
need men to fuck them. They want to feel you get off inside them. They want to
feel you pump your stuff into them and they want to contract their cunt around
you when you do. They need it. They are women, that’s what women do. Escorts are
women too and have the same instincts as other women, often more.
A woman has a greater part of her body dedicated to having babies than a man
does. She has a cunt that receives the dick, but she also has a uterus to carry
fetuses and breasts for feeding babies. These organs are actively working in
preparation for use. She has a period every month, giving her the opportunity to
get pregnant. This is her instinct; she has to do it.
Women instinctively like sex and
want to have orgasms. All you have to do is allow her instincts to do the job.
Women get horny like men do. They masturbate like we
do. It keeps them hot and ready to get laid when the time comes. When a woman
has sex, she wants to come. Pros have sex for money and often they don’t want to
come, but they are women and if you do it right, the instinct will take over.
Foreplay is mental as well as physical. Besides getting her ready physically,
she also has to be ready mentally. And it’s not just a matter of arousal. Must
of foreplay involves developing trust. Women are more vulnerable during sex than
men are. They are physically weaker than men, generally weigh less, and they are
the one being penetrated. Women need to feel safe. So when you are touching
women your touch should communicate to them that they are safe and that they can
feel secure in enjoying themselves. In fact, generally the only limit to how
much a woman can enjoy herself is how comfortable and safe she feels in how far
she can let go. So a few candles, soft touches, and the right grin tell her she
can drop her barriers and enjoy herself as much as she wants.
Much of sex is physical. You have your sex organ, she has hers. When you rub
your dick right, you jack off and you come. When she rubs her cunt right, she
jacks off and she comes. But if you rub it wrong, it doesn’t work. One of the
secrets is getting it right physically.
That’s why you want to use lubrication. Scraping your dick against dry cunt
flesh hurts both of you. When you grease it up, it slides in better and feels
good to both of you. Get out the KY and grease it up. If it gets dry again,
which sometimes happens even during good sex, pull it out and grease it up
Always make sure there is sufficient lubrication.
Next you have to get the angle right so that you’re in
her and she’s comfortable. What I do is work it in slow, holding my body above
her and letting her guide it in. I basically push forward gently and let her
work it down in. This lets her get it in herself comfortably and at her own
speed, so she will not hurt herself. If you cause her pain, she isn’t going to
come because pain isn’t sexually stimulating. One of the so-called “secrets” of
the great lovers is simply to not cause the woman to experience pain.
After it’s in, then you give her room to adjust the angle of penetration. That
way she can get her cunt around your cock and press your pubic bone up against
her clit in a way that feels good to her. All you have to do is give her the
room and the time to adjust herself. Generally, even a pro who may have had no
intention of having an orgasm with you will instinctively put you in the
position that feels best to her.
Pain is a distraction from sexual enjoyment. Make sure you’re not crushing
her or cutting off blood flow do to awkward positions. Give her room to position
herself correctly so that she’s comfortable.
You also want to be careful that you aren’t
accidentally hurting her. If you’re lying on top of her, shift some of your
weight to your knees or elbows and make sure you’re not crushing her and she can
breathe. This is more important for you big guys on small girls. Also try to
make sure you’re not cutting off blood flow to her arms or legs. You always want
to watch and give her room to move to where she’s comfortable.
Making love is a lot like petting a cat. The cat lets you know what it wants.
Women are just like that. Once you’re in and adjusted, she’ll start screwing you
because she’s getting horny and someone has to start. And once she starts
fucking you, all you have to do is respond to her bodily cues and she’ll come
and think you’re the greatest lover in the world. And you didn’t really do
anything but allow her to jack herself off.
See, that’s the big secret. Women will make themselves come. You don’t have to
do it to them; they already know how. Just give them the chance to do it to
themselves. It’s their instinct and unless they actively fight it, they have to
do it. And most of the time they can’t fight it. They are, after all, the
descendants of three billion years of successful fucking. They can hardly ruin a
tradition like that.
The easiest way to learn how to do it right is to have the escort get on top.
That gives her the most control over the motion. You lay face up with a pillow
under your butt, raising your pelvis a little higher than usual and allowing you
to get in a little deeper. She gets on top of you and slides herself down on
you. You smile and tell her how pretty she looks, lightly stroking her breasts
and her nipples as she puts you into her. Then she works you all the way in at
the angle she likes.
Women will give you clues as to what they want next. All you have to do is
watch for the clues.
At this point you do nothing. Don’t start fucking her;
let her fuck you. Move only a little to match her movements but let her do the
fucking. You just lay back and watch and touch her legs and breasts, her ass,
her arms, kissing her softly on the arms. And just watch as she jacks herself
off on top of you. She’ll think you’re an incredible lover, and you’ve done
nothing but lay there and learn. And what you’ll have learned is that even
though you did almost nothing, you did nothing wrong. And you’ll learn how women
work and what they didn’t teach you in school.
Even if the sex isn’t all that great the first time, remember, it is, after all,
your first time — and like anything it will get better with practice. Your
escort has been with a lot of men worse than you. She has done angry drunks who
can’t come and don’t want to pay. She has done weirdoes who’ve threatened to
hurt her. So if you are clean and polite, she’s happy and she will look forward
to seeing you again. You don’t have to impress her with your manhood. Take the
opportunity to learn — and the education is worth the price.
And chances are, she will enjoy teaching you.
After it’s over, it’s time to clean up and say good night. It’s nice to have a
towel next to the bed to wipe up. If you really want to impress a pro, have a
pan of warm water with a warm wash cloth by the bed. After sex, reach down and
get it, ring it out, and hand it to her. Nothing feels better than a nice warm
wash cloth. Otherwise, have some wash cloths in your bathroom for her to clean
up. I keep an open box of tampons on the sink for guests to use. Just having
these basic supplies available will impress most escorts. It doesn’t take much
to be a considerate client.
After she cleans up, she will need to call the agency and let them know she is
done and is okay. Once she’s made the call, you say goodbye and tell her that
you had a nice time. If she likes you, you’ll get a hug and maybe a kiss. Look
around and make sure she has everything. Some women are bad about forgetting
things like their pagers or articles of clothing. If she’s had a good time she’s
more likely to leave things behind.
Becoming a “Regular”
If you find an escort you like and you see her many times, the sex usually gets
better. You get to know each other better and know what each other likes. Like
any relationship, the more time you spend together the better you get at it.
After a few sessions with the same person you become what is called a “regular”.
Escorts prefer to see regulars because they know what to expect, know your not a
cop, and know you’re not a trouble maker. One way you can tell if your escort
considers you a regular is when you pay. If she let’s you pay afterwards, you’re
Relationships with escorts can last for decades and a regular relationship
can be fulfilling on many levels other than just sex
Becoming a regular is like having a surrogate
relationship. It’s not the same as being married and living happily ever after.
However, it’s a lot better than being alone. There are a lot of people in the
world that traditional marriage isn’t something that’s going to work. The idea
that “there’s someone for everyone” is a myth. If you find that someone and you
have a golden anniversary, that’s just great. But for most of us, that just
isn’t going to happen. And you can make yourself miserable waiting for it.
I personally like having several limited but yet still very personal
relationships with several women. I have a lot of women friends and a variety of
lovers and it works for me. It make not be ideal, by we don’t live in an ideal
world. I think I’m doing as well as I can under the circumstances. I’m happy
with it and it works for me.
Since women move from service to service and in and out of the business I like
to develop a regular relationship with several escorts. This way if your
favorite is on the rag, in a bad mood, out of town, or quits, you have other
choices to fall back on. Sometimes your just in the mood for someone different.
If I find an escort I really like I generally give her my card and tell her if
she changes employers to call me and let me know who she’s working for. I’ve
also had women who got out of the business but still keep me as their only
client. And part of the reason for that is that I gave them my phone number.
If at first you don’t succeed…
Try, try again. Sometimes your first experience with a service isn’t what you
expected. You may have been emotionally too upset. You may have picked a woman
who wasn’t your type. You may not have known exactly what you wanted. Maybe you
couldn’t come. That’s not unusual, especially the first time. It takes a while
for some people to learn how to have sex with a total stranger. A certain part
of sex is learned behavior and sometimes you have to try a few times to get it
right. But once you get into it you’ll find it’s well worth it and you’ll be
able to do things you never dreamed.
Prostitution is illegal in most states. There are a number of reason for this.
You have your Christian types who oppose it for “moral” reasons. These people
feel it’s their right to stamp out all activity that they consider to be “sin”.
Little do they realize that a government that is empowered to regulate sex is
empowered to regulate religion. Thus Christians are cutting their own political
throats but aren’t sharp enough to realize it.
Then you have a much more serious group, the sex-neg feminists who believe that
prostitution is the ultimate form of female oppression by male dominated
society. Again, these women can’t get past the images they see on television and
have no concept of what sex work is. A man who gives a woman money for a
relationship, which often includes sex no more dominates her than a man who pays
a mechanic to fix his car. When I take my car in to get it fixed I don’t feel
like I have power over the mechanic because I’m giving him money. He has power
over me because I need my car fixed.
There are lots of prudes from Christians to Feminists who want the
government to intrude into your private sex life in order to convince themselves
they are morally superior. Support those who openly resist government controlled
Lastly, wives fear whores because they are
“competition”. If your husband is unfaithful, you need to fix your relationship
and deal with why he wants to be unfaithful. Whores don’t cause the problem. I
would point out that if your husband is being unfaithful that he is better off
doing it with an escort than his secretary or someone who is actually
competition. So I say to the wives who are reading this, male midlife crisis is
real. It’s usually temporary. It’s something you can work through. And it’s no
reason to get divorced or break up your family. If you catch your husband with
an escort, talk to him, work it out, and don’t break up your family over it.
There’s no point in giving everything you own to a couple of greedy lawyers over
a sexual indiscretion that is fixable.
The courts in the United States and other countries
are very hostile towards the traditional family. There are too many people
making too much money by destroying the lives of you and your children. Once a
person has been through a nasty divorce they are far less likely to risk getting
into a traditional relationship a second time. We allow lawyers to profit too
much at the expense of the public and the government has become a predator
allowing crooked lawyers to flourish at the expense of the family and the people
who the courts are supposed to serve. If there is a moral issue surrounding
escort services, it’s that the penalty for being a good father and a good
husband is much more severe than being caught with a hooker. When so called
“proper behavior” is punished, people will stop behaving properly.
I’ve been asked how to avoid cops. First of all, I believe that escort services
are not sex for money. You’re buying a relationship for money and it often
includes sex. I’ve written a
on the subject. The difference between escorts and cops is that an escort will
avoid any conversation that the transaction is sex for money. A cop will try to
get you to say that you are having sex for money. If the escort is using the
words “sex for money” she is either very stupid, or she’s a cop. If she is
avoiding the words “sex for money” or any other similar agreements then she’s
Never say the words “sex for money”
or make that agreement verbally. You are not buying sex for money. It’s a
surrogate relationship that may include sexual contact.
She should also be paranoid that you are a cop. Most of
the time there is a setup it’s the client who’s the cop trying to bust the
escort. So you don’t want to talk about “sex for money” either. She has more
reason to be paranoid about you being a cop.
Don’t be insulted by this.
Cops would better serve the public if they focused on real crime like
murders, bank robbers, and rapists, and leave consenting adults alone.
One common misconception about being busted is that you
don’t actually have to have sex for money to get busted. All you have to do is
to agree to have sex for money. So either of you can get busted even if no sex
or money changes hands. They do need to get it on tape though. So never say
those words and she should never say those words. I think saying that you are
experiencing “love at first sight” followed by a big grin is a good way to break
the ice. You might ask her if she’s experiencing love at first sight. A
conversation like that would never occur if there were a cop involved because it
wouldn’t be very convincing in front of a jury. So if you can say things that
cops wouldn’t want on tape it tends to show her you’re not a cop.